Relationship Restoration
What is “couples counseling?”
Couples counseling is a form of mental health treatment that involves sessions between a trained professional (therapist) and partnered individuals (clients) seeking to improve their relationship.
When the love in a relationship doesn’t work, then we hurt. Couples therapy exists to help you tend to the hurt.
How does couples therapy work?
Your therapist will welcome you into therapy with care while creating an environment of trust and honesty to explore the unique challenges motivating you to seek therapy at this time. Your therapist will identify relationship dynamics, roles and patterns, and help you learn necessary skills to enhance your present day connection.
We don’t take sides, we don’t play favorites, and are non-judgmental. We respect both people’s views and identities because the both of you are valued members of your relationship.
When is the right time for couples counseling?
If you’re asking yourself if the time is right for couples therapy – then, it is.
Some couples enter couples counseling in times of crisis (e.g: discovery of a betrayal), while others, want assistance in improving their communication skills; steering the uncertainties that come with life transitions; or learning how to renew a shared vision for the future.
What can we expect in couples therapy?
The process begins with your therapist getting familiar with your relationship by learning your background history, the current challenges you are facing, and what your goals are for your relationship. It is common for partners to have different goals, we can work through that. You can also expect your therapist to assign you homework assignments to support growth of the relationship when not in session.
Is it normal to argue in couples therapy?
It is normal to argue in couples therapy. It is normal to argue in relationships – period! When strong emotions are involved, it is often difficult for partners to really listen to one another. This is where the couples therapy at Daniels Psychotherapy can help you..
With the help of your therapist, you’ll be able to pause, listen better, respond differently, and build a stronger relationship…
one argument at a time.
Do you have experience with betrayal trauma?
Yes.
In addition to our years of experience in treating betrayal trauma, we completed vigorous training as a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist (CPTT), a specialization for individuals who are dealing with the discovery aftermath of sexual, emotional, and/or financial betrayal, offered by IITAP.
Every relationship faces challenges, it just comes with the territory.
Let us help you and your partner strengthen your bond and re-discover your connection.
Betrayal Trauma
How We Can Help You
What is “betrayal trauma?”
Betrayal trauma is a term which describes the devastating psychological impact that occurs when a person’s trust or well-being has been violated by a person or institution they care about and rely on for survival.
Betrayal trauma causes immediate disconnection within the person betrayed, as well as, within their relationship(s). Common emotions that betrayed individuals experience are shock, hopelessness, anger, despair, powerlessness, shame, and fear. These emotions govern their mood, affect, functioning, and overall being.
Our closest relationships have tremendous impacts on our wellbeing. Betrayal can only happen when there has been trust. When that trust is broken, it causes a profound sense of unsafety and insecurity. This trauma creates an alteration in the brain chemistry.
Often times, the betraying partner is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. This showcases a deep ambivalence that betrayed partners experience throughout the course of their healing from betrayal trauma, and a deep rupture injury in the attachment that partners had pre-discovery.
What therapeutic modalities do you utilize?
We heavily rely on the Attachment-Focused Partner Betrayal Model, developed by Michelle Mays, to support our work with betrayed partners and couples healing from betrayal trauma.
This model focuses on helping couples address the relational nature of betrayal.
What are common couples issues we treat?
Communication Issues:
Do you feel misunderstood when you’re trying to express your needs?
Infidelity:
Has your relationship been harmed by the devastating impacts of betrayal?
Conflict Resolution:
Do you find yourselves gridlocked on certain topics?
Sexual Concerns:
Has sex become obsolete in your relationship and want it back?
Life Transitions:
Are in the midst of a significant life change and needing guidance?
Financial Stress:
Does money feel like the third person in the relationship?
Emotional Disconnection:
Do you sit next to each other and yet feel miles apart?
Addiction:
Are your heads spinning while dealing with the impacts of addiction?
You have an important story to tell. We are ready and willing to hear it.
Your unique life circumstances have led you to this website. Your instincts are telling you it’s time to get help. Don’t hesitate any longer. Give yourself the gift of quality psychotherapy and begin your journey of recovery today.