Self-Esteem
What is “self-esteem?”
Self-esteem can be seen as a person's opinion of themselves, which includes their abilities and limitations. A person's self-esteem is shaped by their thoughts, experiences, relationships, & societal messages (e.g: culture, religion). Low self-esteem typically involves feelings and thoughts of inadequacy, self-doubt, and self-criticism.
What are key traits of low self-esteem?
We have created a list of key traits found in both low self-esteem and healthy self-esteem. You may view this list by scrolling down this page. As you are reviewing the characteristics, we encourage you to reflect on your personal experiences and remember that treatment to build your self-esteem is available. Contact us today.
What are the causes of low self-esteem?
Low or high self-esteem can be caused by a variety of factors (often interrelated) that influence how individuals view themselves and their worth. Some of the primary causes include: childhood experiences, negative social interactions, social media, unrealistic expectations, internalized beliefs, ongoing setbacks, and unresolved trauma.
What are the treatment modalities?
Therapy for self-esteem typically involves a gradual process of exploration, gaining insight, and practicing new behaviors to build self-confidence. The goal of therapy would be to help you develop a healthy self-esteem that is balanced and realistic; where you're able to acknowledge your flaws or limitations and still hold yourself to some high regard.
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10 Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Negative Self-Talk: Frequently engaging in critical or self-deprecating thoughts such as "I'm not good enough" or "I can't do anything right."
Constant Self-Doubt: Consistently questioning your decisions, abilities, or worth, even in situations where others are confident.
Avoiding Challenges: Shying away from new experiences or challenges for fear of failure or not measuring up.
Over-apologizing: Apologizing excessively, even when it's unnecessary or unwarranted, indicating a lack of confidence in one's actions or feelings.
Difficulty Accepting Compliments: Reacting with discomfort, rejecting, or downplaying compliments or praise from others.
Perfectionism: Setting unrealistically high standards and feeling inadequate when those standards aren't met, leading to burnout.
Social Withdrawal: Avoiding social interactions or relationships due to fears of being judged or not being accepted.
Chronic People-Pleasing: Going out of your way to meet others’ expectations, even at your own expense, to gain approval or avoid conflict.
Fear of Criticism: Being overly sensitive to feedback or criticism, often taking it personally and dwelling on it.
Negative Body Image: Feeling dissatisfied or uncomfortable with your physical appearance, sometimes leading to unhealthy behaviors.
10 Signs of Healthy Self-Esteem
Self-Acceptance: Acknowledging both strengths and weaknesses without excessive self-judgment and being comfortable with who you are.
Realistic Self-Confidence: Believing in your abilities to handle challenges, but understanding your limits and learning from mistakes.
Setting Healthy Boundaries: Feeling comfortable saying "no" when necessary and asserting your needs, without guilt or fear of rejection.
Self-Compassion: Being kind to yourself during difficult times and understanding that everyone has flaws or makes mistakes.
Embracing Imperfection: Recognizing that perfection is unattainable and being okay with mistakes or flaws, seeing them as opportunities for growth.
Positive Self-Talk: Engaging in supportive and encouraging thoughts, such as "I am capable" or "I am worthy of love and respect."
Gratitude for Your Achievements: Acknowledging and celebrating your accomplishments, big or small, without downplaying your success.
Taking Responsibility: Owning up to mistakes or failures without excessive guilt, and taking proactive steps to improve or learn from the situation.
Healthy Relationships: Engaging in relationships that are based on mutual respect, understanding, and support, where you feel valued and heard.
Self-Care: Prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being, making time for activities that rejuvenate and nourish you.
The above characteristics can often intertwine. Your therapy at our practice can explore how your self-esteem developed over time, uncovering past influences and beliefs, and we can work together to foster a healthier, more positive self-esteem moving forward.
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